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Why Should The Child Attend School Before Age Six?

Why Should The Child Attend School Before Age Six?

Why Should The Child Attend School Before Age Six?

The first step in a Montessori education addresses itself to early childhood education and lays a foundation for how a child will learn throughout his/her life. A Montessori preschool is neither a baby-sitting service nor a regimented place where children are forced to achieve. We offer the child the opportunity to develop individually within a carefully defined structure. School is a natural and enjoyable experience.

Furthermore, the Montessori philosophy regards the years from birth to six as crucial in a child’s development. It is during this time that children have sensitive periods. This differs from a critical period. A sensitive period is one in which a child has a natural desire to acquire a particular trait or skill. He/she will occupy himself/herself with particular activities with an interest and concentration he/she will never again display for that particular activity. Unlike a critical period in which he/she must acquire the skill during that time or she will never acquire it, a sensitive period is one in which a child desires to accomplish a particular task. He/she could learn how to master that same task at a later time, but not with the same fervor, zeal and ease of the sensitive period.

Some examples of sensitive periods: Two-and-one-half and three-year-old children are usually in a sensitive period for order. If certain objects are not in their usual places, a young child will rearrange them until they are. It is also speculated that humor originates from this sensitivity. For example, if an adult put a vase on his head and called it a hat, a young child might be confused. She has recently learned in the order of our universe that vases are for flowers and hats are for heads. However, a four or five-year-old might find it amusing because the adult has deviated from the order the child knows well.

Four and five-year-old are in a sensitive period for writing. Parents also have reported that at a particular time their child will go through reams of paper printing numbers and letters. Their child really wants to perfect that skill. The length of this period varies and it is a transitory one. Once it is over, the child will still want to print numbers and letters, but not with the same fervor of the original period. Teachers have also observed children who were in a sensitive period for learning the sounds of letters. Each day some children would come to school and want to work on the letter sounds to the exclusion of other activities.

There are various sensitive periods. A parent or teacher cannot create a sensitive period in a child; however, the adult can follow and help the child to develop his/her interests. The Montessori school aids the child by providing opportunities for his/her to accomplish the tasks that are important to his/her at a given time. A traditional school, with time blocks for subjects and a curriculum into which each child must fit is not always able to help a child develop his/her interests and sensitivities.

Five Tips for the Montessori Beginner

Five Tips for the Montessori Beginner

So you want to do Montessori in the home but aren’t sure where to start. Perhaps you’ve toured a Montessori classroom, beautifully prepared with neat shelves of learning materials and thought, “if they can do it with 17 kids, certainly I can do it with just one!”

Well, I have some bad news and some good news. The bad news is you can’t replicate the Photoshopped fantasy nor the carefully managed classroom. The good news is you aren’t supposed to. Montessori is much more a philosophy of child development than a set of things to do. Plus, you’re doing it in your home — under real world conditions. Expect the mess.

So where does that leave the aspiring Montessorian?

Mastering the philosophy can be a life’s pursuit, but there are a few tips you can incorporate right away to help you along the way.

 #1. Follow your child 

This is number one for a reason. Learning new skills will not occur without your child’s interest. Following your child means seriously observing your child’s stage of development.

What toys does your child keep coming back to over and over? What is he/she trying to do? Learning to crawl? Pouring and spilling water everywhere? Spending hours turning the pages of a book? Going to the potty to (ahem) play in it? Catching bugs constantly? Picking out a shirt to wear, discarding it, only to put on another shirt?

I can’t tell you what activities to focus on in your Montessori home because that’s your child’s job. Many classroom teachers will tell you that they can’t truly design the shelves without meeting the children and observing them. This is even more important for you, Montessori parent, because unlike a classroom filled with child centered, ready made curricula, you are incorporating your child into a family-centric environment.

You most likely have limited resources and space, so focus on your child’s interests. You can (and will!) change the environment as your child grows older and has different needs. Write down a list of your child’s current obsessions, whether it be banging pots, throwing blocks, or matching colors, and ask yourself, “What is he/she trying to learn from this behavior?

#2. Invest in shelves and baskets

While you’re not likely to achieve immaculate, you do want to make your Montessori environment as organized and peaceful as reasonable. It also keeps your house from becoming too cluttered with random kid stuff because you can’t stuff everything on a few shelves like you can in, say, a toy chest or some bins.

“Unlike toy chests, shelves naturally encourage you to limit quantity.”

Remember, you don’t have to get everything at once. Start with baskets and shelves. You won’t be disappointed.

#3. Choose some of your child’s nicest toys

Toys are fine when the quality and quantity is appropriate. If adding toys, pick ones your child loves; that inspire and nurture; and (if at all possible) are beautiful and made of natural materials. Likewise, steer clear of flashy, noisy, battery-operated toys as much as possible and focus on toys that spark your child’s imagination.

And the toys that you aren’t choosing to put on your beautiful shelves? You don’t have to throw the rest away, but do keep them away from your child’s shelves, hidden wherever you have available.

And if you find yourself acquiring a massive amount of toys, it’s a great idea to donate them.

#4. Limit quantity

If you have a toddler, you probably won’t be needing all 286 blocks that came with the set. You might need about 20. Just enough to stack into towers and topple down. You also don’t want to crowd your shelves.

Are you wondering how many toys to put out at a time? I can’t tell you that, but your child will.

You also might want to select one type of toy and rotate within the category. For example, if you have a lot of puzzle or different sets of building blocks, consider displaying one or two and put the rest away for now.

#5. Get Support

You can’t make this journey alone. You need help! Start with spouses, partners, or others who are actively participating in raising your child, such as grandparents. The goal is to have a shared vision for what Montessori in your home looks like.

Go further, though, and reach out to friends and other parents. Talk to them about what you’re doing, even if you aren’t completely confident in it. In fact, talking about it will help you better understand your own perspective and dissolve the feeling of isolation so common in parenting.

Tackling tantrums              面对崩溃哭闹的宝宝,            如何安抚却不妥协?

Tackling tantrums 面对崩溃哭闹的宝宝, 如何安抚却不妥协?

If you haven’t experienced one, you will have witnessed one. A child having a temper tantrum can challenge even the calmest of parents. Things can be fine one minute and the next it appears that an unknown being has inhabited your child. Knowing what to do can be the difference between you throwing one yourself and it being a growing experience.

What a tantrum IS

• Loss of control of feelings

• Inability to express a problem in words

• Lack of problem-solving skills

• Normal stage in child development

What a tantrum IS NOT

• A deliberate attempt to make your life hell

• Deliberately designed to embarrass you in public

Why do children have tantrums?

Because they work! Giving in to tantrums means your child learns that the best way to get what they want is to have a tantrum – this will just make tantrums occur more often and for longer periods of time.

Tips for cutting down tantrums

1. Set appropriate boundaries and limits – make it clear to your child what behaviours are expected.

2. Consistency

3. Predictability

4. Routine

5. Avoid negative words – constantly saying “no” will add to your child’s frustration. Instead use phrases like “later”, or “after lunch”.

6. Help children ask for what they need by putting it into words. For example “Mum, can I please have …..”

7. Offer realistic choices by being prepared to follow through on your child’s choice.

8. Use positive parenting – give plenty of praise and attention for helpful and appropriate behaviour you want to keep seeing from your child, for example “Well done Tommy, it’s great when you use your manners”.

Learning how to tackle tantrums is an invaluable tool that will prevent you from feeling like you want to tear your hair out.

How much easier would life be if you felt more confident managing tantrums?

Kindly refer :

Temper Tantrums

安潇经历了好几年的折磨,才总结出来这一套应对尖叫崩溃的高需求宝宝的行为方式,用这个方法她安抚了孩子,保护了自己的情绪,又坚持了原则不妥协。

以下九大步骤是小小总结

1. 想办法预期到可能引起情绪的情景,提前准备,尽量避免

2. 不因为孩子尖叫哭喊就

改变原则

3. 不因为孩子崩溃哭喊就怒吼训斥

4. 不在孩子崩溃哭泣的时候和她讲道理

5. 不因为孩子哭闹而抛弃孩子走开

6. 给孩子合理的、有安抚感的选项,但接受孩子的拒绝。

7. 孩子拒绝了选项以后,就不再互动,进入“静止人”模式

8. 在孩子给出合理指令时,立刻执行

9. 在孩子完全快乐起来之后,再一起回忆和讲道理

总结一下这个行为的过程:

1. 事先预想到孩子可能崩溃的情景,提前准备、尽量避免。

2. 清楚地告诉孩子,不合理的要求不能执行。

3. 孩子发怒崩溃哭喊的时候,不对孩子怒吼、不走开、不说理。

4. 平静地给孩子一些合理的、又具有安抚感的选项。

5. 孩子拒绝选项以后,想办法抽离自己的情绪,不说话不互动,进入“静止人”状态,只安静等待,脑子里想一些别的能让自己平静的事。

6. 当孩子接受合理选项、或者自己提出新的合理要求时,爸妈立刻去执行,以此让孩子得到安慰。

7. 孩子刚刚平静时,不要立即回顾事件。当情绪完全恢复之后,再用语言回顾整件事,讲道理、让孩子了解自己的情绪、学习到什么要求是合理的、什么是不合理的、应该如何表达自己的要求。

但愿我们都能在关键的时刻自如开启“情绪的抽离模式”,这个能力真的很重要,可以不让自己的心情卷入别人的情绪旋涡中。

如果一开始觉得很难,随着有意识的“刻意练习”,会越来越容易做到。

不动气,才真的是善待自己,当妈不容易,我们最需要小心呵护自己的情绪。

陪伴高需求宝宝是一个炼炉,最终会把我们打磨成通透的、以柔制刚的、乐观的珍珠妈妈。

请参考她的故事

https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/jgZ942XszBq_ljX1FY0z3Q

新年育儿锦囊之四,:礼仪篇        🎊🎊🎉🎊🎉农暦新年,不要错过养成孩子礼仪的黄金时间。

新年育儿锦囊之四,:礼仪篇        🎊🎊🎉🎊🎉农暦新年,不要错过养成孩子礼仪的黄金时间。

团圆是春节的主题,无论相隔多远的距离,亲朋好友都会团聚在一起,在这个节日里,我们的宝贝会接触到很多的亲朋好友,而幼儿的社会性礼仪发展,正是在人与人之间相互沟通和交流中建立起来的,所以,不妨利用春节假期,对孩子进行一场“静悄悄”的礼仪教育,让孩子在潜移默化中获得成长。
访友礼仪
1、孩子在进入他人家中时需要更换室内拖鞋,家长可以示范给孩子看,主动将更换完的鞋子摆放整齐,给孩子树立整理意识。

2、主动称呼他人,这是常规性礼仪,家长可以事先在家和孩子一起模拟训练,提前告知孩子将会见到那些亲朋,避免现场见面孩子不配合,引起不必要的尴尬,同时也让孩子知道,任何时候称呼他人,是我们尊重他人的第一步。

3、双手接受物品,不当面拆开红包。新年拜年,长辈会给晚辈准备礼物或者是红包,很多孩子看见喜欢的东西会开心,但是不喜欢的甚至都不看一眼,给他人造成尴尬,家长可以引导孩子双手接纳,并感谢他人,可提前引导孩子换位思考,别人为我们准备礼物,是花费了心思,如果我们不接纳,他们会伤心的,红包接受,可以交给父母保管。

4、不随意跑动、打闹。由于过年亲朋集聚,会导致空间较为狭小,但是孩子之间的相处,会出现跑动、打闹的情景,一方面会导致碰损他人家长物品,另一方面会造成环境的混乱,家长可以引导孩子在一旁玩耍,切忌呵斥孩子,给予孩子尊重。

5、没有允许,不翻动他人的物品。在一个新的空间,会激发孩子的探索欲望,当孩子表现出这样的欲望时,家长不要一味的压抑孩子想法,反而会激发孩子探索欲,家长可以陪同孩子一起询问主人意见,再去打开物品,告知孩子不能随意翻动。

6、长辈先落座,夹菜有礼貌。现在孩子独生子女较多,过年餐桌上有很多的好吃的,孩子可能菜品刚刚端上来,就迫不及待的坐上板凳,用手夹菜,这时候,我们可以寻找一个身边有礼貌的孩子做示范,鼓励孩子向他学习,邀请长辈先落座,自己再坐下,有想吃的菜品,请父母帮忙夹菜。

7、好吃的食物,不独享,分享给他人。幼儿社会认知有限,看见比较喜爱的食物,可能会想一个人“占有”,因此在日常生活中,家长应该逐渐渗透分享理念,甚至可以演一场戏,让孩子体验不被分享的失落。
8、卫生用餐。春节孩子在一起嬉戏,小手可能会弄得脏兮兮的,稍不留神,细菌进入肚子,引起不适,家长主动带孩子在饭前便后洗手,提醒幼儿使用餐具饮食。

待客礼仪

1、礼仪用语我会说。过年家中来了客人,家长要引导孩子主动打招呼,使用“您好”、“请”、“谢谢”、“下次再来玩哦”……等等人际交往常用语,同时,新年新气象,彼此之间的祝福也不能少,可以储备几句常用句,例如“新年快乐”、“万事如意”“大吉大利”……等,增添节日气氛。

2、不随意打断他人对话。过年大家许久不见,免不了寒暄几句,孩子可在一旁安静倾听,如果有什么需要,可以提前询问“请问我可以打断一下吗”,这个习惯会让孩子终生受益。

3、谦让,友好相处。过年家中的小伙伴也会比较多,孩子会拿出自己的玩具,或者共同观看电视节目,孩子们之间也许会为了不同选择发生争执,家长可在日常使用绘本故事等方式教育孩子学会谦让,让孩子知道,别人来我们家做客,我们要以客人为主,在孩子落实行为时,及时夸奖。

4、待客行为,我会做。客人来到家中,不仅仅是家长需要做一些待客的行为,可以邀请孩子参与,比如为客人端上水果,递上鞋套等物品,树立基本的待客礼仪常识。

新年的环境氛围,为孩子提供了一个良好的社会性发展时间,所以,爸爸妈妈们,你们也要以身作则,为宝贝们做一个好的示范哦!新的一年,希望孩子伴随年龄增长,礼仪也越来越棒,我们一起加油!

Tips for parents – Chinese New Year

Tips for parents – Chinese New Year


Do you get a little panic when your friends or relatives give food to your little ones without asking for your consent? In my opinion, I would say it is absolutely acceptable to politely remind your friends and relatives about your little ones’ food allergies and your personal preference of “please ask me before giving food to my child”. 

Here is a list of festive snacks that adults cannot resist but not necessarily healthy snacks for children:

Flavoured dried plums

The tasteful flavoured dried plums are irrisistible (for adults). Did you know that it is actually made of lots of artificial flavoring and preservatives? Take a look at the ingredients list and I’m sure you can find very little natural ingredients. 

It is bad for children as children’s detoxification system is yet to be mature. Moreover, children might risk swallowing the small seeds, a serious choking hazard.  

Salted vegetables & dried meat related products

The high sodium content in this category of festive food can easy surpass one’s daily recommended sodium intake. Marinated food products are often packed with nitrite, aflatoxin and benzopyrene, that are the main cancer causing culprits. 

Nuts & Seeds

Many parents might assume that as long as children have a mouthful of teeth, they should be able to safely consume nuts and seeds. In fact, children below 3 years old have yet to fully developed their chewing and swallowing skills, therefore they might not be able to productively chew the nuts and seeds into a digestible form. In rare cases, children suffer from choking hazard especially when they are eating while playing. 

Honey

Honey is not suitable for toddler below 1 years old due to the risk of Botulism. Botulism is a rare and potentially fatal illness caused by a toxin produced by the bacterium Clostridium botulinum. The disease begins with weakness, blurred vision, feeling tired, and trouble speaking.

Jelly

The colourful and tasteful jelly is another artificial food that you should not be giving to your children. Not only that it contains little or none nutritional values, it is also one of the common choking hazard.

Alcohol

It’s absolutely not all right to have a two-year-old sipping wine and beer, it provides absolutely no benefit to the child and it can be quite harmful. 

Alcohol has very specific effects on the body that can be particularly harmful to a child. It causes the blood sugar to fall to levels that can cause irritability, confusion, and even seizures. It lowers the body temperature, and since children’s bodies have such a large surface area relative to their weight, they lose heat rapidly and can become hypothermic very easily. Additionally, alcohol has very direct effects on the brain. Since most of a person’s brain growth occurs during the first few years of life, repeated exposure to alcohol could interfere with brain growth and cause delayed development and lowered intelligence.

Ginkgo

Ginkgo is known for containing a small amount of toxin, more if consumed uncooked. However if a child consumes uncooked ginkgo, the risk of food poisoning and fatality is much higher than adults. 

Coffee
Caffeine in coffee may hinder children’s brain and bone development. Who needs an even more hyper child when your child is already active without caffeine?

Glutinous Rice Balls, Rice Cakes


The main ingredient for this festive snack is glutinous rice. Although it is a relatively healthy option, but children’s delicate digestive system may not be able to handle them well yet. Overeating this category of snacks will cause bloated stomach, nausea and poor digestion. Definitely not recommended for toddler below 3 years old. 

Sashimi, medium rare beef, alcohol-cooked seafood etc


Most of the sashimi slices on top of the Yee Sang are not hygienically prepared, so you can imagine the risk level of food poisoning, especially for those with poor digestive system and children. 

Children do not have a mature digestive system to protect them against food-borne disease.


What should you be doing?

Keep an eye on them

Better be safe than sorry. Remind your children if they have any food allergies, give gentle reminders to your friends and family on your take of giving food to children. 

Emergency Assistance

Seek immediate medical assistance if needed. Better be safe than sorry!

Know your limits
It is impossible to ban your children to snack on every single type of less healthy snacks. Set your limit and educate your children to consume these snacks responsibly and sensibly. After all, the big part of CNY is food sharing, right?