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HOW WILL THE CHILD ADJUST TO TRADITIONAL SCHOOL AFTER BEING IN MONTESSORI SCHOOL?

HOW WILL THE CHILD ADJUST TO TRADITIONAL SCHOOL AFTER BEING IN MONTESSORI SCHOOL?

One of the most common questions parents ask is how will my child fare when he or she transitions from Montessori school into traditional school?

Whether it be kindergarten, college or somewhere in between, most Montessori students will eventually switch to another type of school. Parents worry that children accustomed to learning through the Montessori Method will struggle to adapt in different schools and classrooms. With some schools offering open classroom settings and with the adoption of the Montessori Method by private school systems, children with Montessori preschool background are at an advantage. Montessori children entering a traditional class also have no greater difficulty than other children do in making the adjustment. The children have learned to follow ground rules and need only to learn the ground rules of the new school.

The truth of the matter is that everyone’s life involves change. And this is actually a good thing, so long as you are equipped with the necessary coping tools and skills. Teaching our children to adjust to change without undue fear and anxiety is one of life’s important lesson for all children, Montessori- schooled or otherwise. But here’s the bonus for Montessori students: the Montessori Method is all about developing such coping tools through building confidence, independence, and problem-solving skills. As a result, most Montessori students are actually more adaptable than their non-Montessori peers. Studies show that children with a Montessori background are independent learners and thus more confident and task-oriented.

 

 

Academic Transitions

Most of the parental concerns regarding transition can be lumped into two main categories: academic and social. Some people believe that because the Montessori Method involves a lot of free choice and little to no testing and homework, Montessori students fall behind academically. Happily, this fear has been proven unfounded. As a rule, Montessori children do better on benchmark tests than students in traditional schools. Don’t take my word for it; have a look at the sources below:

Study Shows Improved Test Scores for Students in Montessori Schools– “New research suggests that children who attend Montessori schools may have an edge over other children in terms of both academic and social development.”

Evaluating Montessori Education– “…when strictly implemented, Montessori education fosters social and academic skills that are equal or superior to those fostered by a pool of other types of schools.”

Montessori Teaching Method Pays Off with Improved Test Scores, Discipline– “The implementation of a Montessori program has paid great dividends…. In addition to curbing discipline problems, all of her students have tested into the school’s gifted and talented program and have scored well on PACT and benchmark testing.”

Outcomes for Students in a Montessori Program– “In essence, attending a Montessori program from the approximate age of three to eleven predicts significantly higher mathematics and science standardized test scores in high school.”

Social Transitions

When it comes to social transitions, again the Montessori students have an edge. Children in Montessori classrooms have learned principles such as courtesy, respect, positive decision-making, conflict resolution, and more. These skills serve them well as they adjust to new schools and meet new people.

Parents can also help their children adjust to change. First, we must remember to model a positive attitude about life transitions. It’s easy to be so distracted by our own discomfort with change that we forget to set a good example for our children. Children are learning how to adjust (and whether or not to be anxious) from us. Therefore, we must strive to see change as a challenge and not something to be feared and avoided. Also, pay attention to what you say in front of your children.

A few more suggestions for helping children adjust include:

  • Listen to your children’s ideas for how to fix problems.
  • Be open to a style that is not your own. In other words, your children might handle change differently.
  • Make a point to meet your children’s new teachers. Attend “back to school nights,” etc. 
Why Should The Child Attend School Before Age Six?

Why Should The Child Attend School Before Age Six?

Why Should The Child Attend School Before Age Six?

The first step in a Montessori education addresses itself to early childhood education and lays a foundation for how a child will learn throughout his/her life. A Montessori preschool is neither a baby-sitting service nor a regimented place where children are forced to achieve. We offer the child the opportunity to develop individually within a carefully defined structure. School is a natural and enjoyable experience.

Furthermore, the Montessori philosophy regards the years from birth to six as crucial in a child’s development. It is during this time that children have sensitive periods. This differs from a critical period. A sensitive period is one in which a child has a natural desire to acquire a particular trait or skill. He/she will occupy himself/herself with particular activities with an interest and concentration he/she will never again display for that particular activity. Unlike a critical period in which he/she must acquire the skill during that time or she will never acquire it, a sensitive period is one in which a child desires to accomplish a particular task. He/she could learn how to master that same task at a later time, but not with the same fervor, zeal and ease of the sensitive period.

Some examples of sensitive periods: Two-and-one-half and three-year-old children are usually in a sensitive period for order. If certain objects are not in their usual places, a young child will rearrange them until they are. It is also speculated that humor originates from this sensitivity. For example, if an adult put a vase on his head and called it a hat, a young child might be confused. She has recently learned in the order of our universe that vases are for flowers and hats are for heads. However, a four or five-year-old might find it amusing because the adult has deviated from the order the child knows well.

Four and five-year-old are in a sensitive period for writing. Parents also have reported that at a particular time their child will go through reams of paper printing numbers and letters. Their child really wants to perfect that skill. The length of this period varies and it is a transitory one. Once it is over, the child will still want to print numbers and letters, but not with the same fervor of the original period. Teachers have also observed children who were in a sensitive period for learning the sounds of letters. Each day some children would come to school and want to work on the letter sounds to the exclusion of other activities.

There are various sensitive periods. A parent or teacher cannot create a sensitive period in a child; however, the adult can follow and help the child to develop his/her interests. The Montessori school aids the child by providing opportunities for his/her to accomplish the tasks that are important to his/her at a given time. A traditional school, with time blocks for subjects and a curriculum into which each child must fit is not always able to help a child develop his/her interests and sensitivities.

Five Tips for the Montessori Beginner

Five Tips for the Montessori Beginner

So you want to do Montessori in the home but aren’t sure where to start. Perhaps you’ve toured a Montessori classroom, beautifully prepared with neat shelves of learning materials and thought, “if they can do it with 17 kids, certainly I can do it with just one!”

Well, I have some bad news and some good news. The bad news is you can’t replicate the Photoshopped fantasy nor the carefully managed classroom. The good news is you aren’t supposed to. Montessori is much more a philosophy of child development than a set of things to do. Plus, you’re doing it in your home — under real world conditions. Expect the mess.

So where does that leave the aspiring Montessorian?

Mastering the philosophy can be a life’s pursuit, but there are a few tips you can incorporate right away to help you along the way.

 #1. Follow your child 

This is number one for a reason. Learning new skills will not occur without your child’s interest. Following your child means seriously observing your child’s stage of development.

What toys does your child keep coming back to over and over? What is he/she trying to do? Learning to crawl? Pouring and spilling water everywhere? Spending hours turning the pages of a book? Going to the potty to (ahem) play in it? Catching bugs constantly? Picking out a shirt to wear, discarding it, only to put on another shirt?

I can’t tell you what activities to focus on in your Montessori home because that’s your child’s job. Many classroom teachers will tell you that they can’t truly design the shelves without meeting the children and observing them. This is even more important for you, Montessori parent, because unlike a classroom filled with child centered, ready made curricula, you are incorporating your child into a family-centric environment.

You most likely have limited resources and space, so focus on your child’s interests. You can (and will!) change the environment as your child grows older and has different needs. Write down a list of your child’s current obsessions, whether it be banging pots, throwing blocks, or matching colors, and ask yourself, “What is he/she trying to learn from this behavior?

#2. Invest in shelves and baskets

While you’re not likely to achieve immaculate, you do want to make your Montessori environment as organized and peaceful as reasonable. It also keeps your house from becoming too cluttered with random kid stuff because you can’t stuff everything on a few shelves like you can in, say, a toy chest or some bins.

“Unlike toy chests, shelves naturally encourage you to limit quantity.”

Remember, you don’t have to get everything at once. Start with baskets and shelves. You won’t be disappointed.

#3. Choose some of your child’s nicest toys

Toys are fine when the quality and quantity is appropriate. If adding toys, pick ones your child loves; that inspire and nurture; and (if at all possible) are beautiful and made of natural materials. Likewise, steer clear of flashy, noisy, battery-operated toys as much as possible and focus on toys that spark your child’s imagination.

And the toys that you aren’t choosing to put on your beautiful shelves? You don’t have to throw the rest away, but do keep them away from your child’s shelves, hidden wherever you have available.

And if you find yourself acquiring a massive amount of toys, it’s a great idea to donate them.

#4. Limit quantity

If you have a toddler, you probably won’t be needing all 286 blocks that came with the set. You might need about 20. Just enough to stack into towers and topple down. You also don’t want to crowd your shelves.

Are you wondering how many toys to put out at a time? I can’t tell you that, but your child will.

You also might want to select one type of toy and rotate within the category. For example, if you have a lot of puzzle or different sets of building blocks, consider displaying one or two and put the rest away for now.

#5. Get Support

You can’t make this journey alone. You need help! Start with spouses, partners, or others who are actively participating in raising your child, such as grandparents. The goal is to have a shared vision for what Montessori in your home looks like.

Go further, though, and reach out to friends and other parents. Talk to them about what you’re doing, even if you aren’t completely confident in it. In fact, talking about it will help you better understand your own perspective and dissolve the feeling of isolation so common in parenting.

Tackling tantrums              面对崩溃哭闹的宝宝,            如何安抚却不妥协?

Tackling tantrums 面对崩溃哭闹的宝宝, 如何安抚却不妥协?

If you haven’t experienced one, you will have witnessed one. A child having a temper tantrum can challenge even the calmest of parents. Things can be fine one minute and the next it appears that an unknown being has inhabited your child. Knowing what to do can be the difference between you throwing one yourself and it being a growing experience.

What a tantrum IS

• Loss of control of feelings

• Inability to express a problem in words

• Lack of problem-solving skills

• Normal stage in child development

What a tantrum IS NOT

• A deliberate attempt to make your life hell

• Deliberately designed to embarrass you in public

Why do children have tantrums?

Because they work! Giving in to tantrums means your child learns that the best way to get what they want is to have a tantrum – this will just make tantrums occur more often and for longer periods of time.

Tips for cutting down tantrums

1. Set appropriate boundaries and limits – make it clear to your child what behaviours are expected.

2. Consistency

3. Predictability

4. Routine

5. Avoid negative words – constantly saying “no” will add to your child’s frustration. Instead use phrases like “later”, or “after lunch”.

6. Help children ask for what they need by putting it into words. For example “Mum, can I please have …..”

7. Offer realistic choices by being prepared to follow through on your child’s choice.

8. Use positive parenting – give plenty of praise and attention for helpful and appropriate behaviour you want to keep seeing from your child, for example “Well done Tommy, it’s great when you use your manners”.

Learning how to tackle tantrums is an invaluable tool that will prevent you from feeling like you want to tear your hair out.

How much easier would life be if you felt more confident managing tantrums?

Kindly refer :

Temper Tantrums

安潇经历了好几年的折磨,才总结出来这一套应对尖叫崩溃的高需求宝宝的行为方式,用这个方法她安抚了孩子,保护了自己的情绪,又坚持了原则不妥协。

以下九大步骤是小小总结

1. 想办法预期到可能引起情绪的情景,提前准备,尽量避免

2. 不因为孩子尖叫哭喊就

改变原则

3. 不因为孩子崩溃哭喊就怒吼训斥

4. 不在孩子崩溃哭泣的时候和她讲道理

5. 不因为孩子哭闹而抛弃孩子走开

6. 给孩子合理的、有安抚感的选项,但接受孩子的拒绝。

7. 孩子拒绝了选项以后,就不再互动,进入“静止人”模式

8. 在孩子给出合理指令时,立刻执行

9. 在孩子完全快乐起来之后,再一起回忆和讲道理

总结一下这个行为的过程:

1. 事先预想到孩子可能崩溃的情景,提前准备、尽量避免。

2. 清楚地告诉孩子,不合理的要求不能执行。

3. 孩子发怒崩溃哭喊的时候,不对孩子怒吼、不走开、不说理。

4. 平静地给孩子一些合理的、又具有安抚感的选项。

5. 孩子拒绝选项以后,想办法抽离自己的情绪,不说话不互动,进入“静止人”状态,只安静等待,脑子里想一些别的能让自己平静的事。

6. 当孩子接受合理选项、或者自己提出新的合理要求时,爸妈立刻去执行,以此让孩子得到安慰。

7. 孩子刚刚平静时,不要立即回顾事件。当情绪完全恢复之后,再用语言回顾整件事,讲道理、让孩子了解自己的情绪、学习到什么要求是合理的、什么是不合理的、应该如何表达自己的要求。

但愿我们都能在关键的时刻自如开启“情绪的抽离模式”,这个能力真的很重要,可以不让自己的心情卷入别人的情绪旋涡中。

如果一开始觉得很难,随着有意识的“刻意练习”,会越来越容易做到。

不动气,才真的是善待自己,当妈不容易,我们最需要小心呵护自己的情绪。

陪伴高需求宝宝是一个炼炉,最终会把我们打磨成通透的、以柔制刚的、乐观的珍珠妈妈。

请参考她的故事

https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/jgZ942XszBq_ljX1FY0z3Q

新年育儿锦囊之四,:礼仪篇        🎊🎊🎉🎊🎉农暦新年,不要错过养成孩子礼仪的黄金时间。

新年育儿锦囊之四,:礼仪篇        🎊🎊🎉🎊🎉农暦新年,不要错过养成孩子礼仪的黄金时间。

团圆是春节的主题,无论相隔多远的距离,亲朋好友都会团聚在一起,在这个节日里,我们的宝贝会接触到很多的亲朋好友,而幼儿的社会性礼仪发展,正是在人与人之间相互沟通和交流中建立起来的,所以,不妨利用春节假期,对孩子进行一场“静悄悄”的礼仪教育,让孩子在潜移默化中获得成长。
访友礼仪
1、孩子在进入他人家中时需要更换室内拖鞋,家长可以示范给孩子看,主动将更换完的鞋子摆放整齐,给孩子树立整理意识。

2、主动称呼他人,这是常规性礼仪,家长可以事先在家和孩子一起模拟训练,提前告知孩子将会见到那些亲朋,避免现场见面孩子不配合,引起不必要的尴尬,同时也让孩子知道,任何时候称呼他人,是我们尊重他人的第一步。

3、双手接受物品,不当面拆开红包。新年拜年,长辈会给晚辈准备礼物或者是红包,很多孩子看见喜欢的东西会开心,但是不喜欢的甚至都不看一眼,给他人造成尴尬,家长可以引导孩子双手接纳,并感谢他人,可提前引导孩子换位思考,别人为我们准备礼物,是花费了心思,如果我们不接纳,他们会伤心的,红包接受,可以交给父母保管。

4、不随意跑动、打闹。由于过年亲朋集聚,会导致空间较为狭小,但是孩子之间的相处,会出现跑动、打闹的情景,一方面会导致碰损他人家长物品,另一方面会造成环境的混乱,家长可以引导孩子在一旁玩耍,切忌呵斥孩子,给予孩子尊重。

5、没有允许,不翻动他人的物品。在一个新的空间,会激发孩子的探索欲望,当孩子表现出这样的欲望时,家长不要一味的压抑孩子想法,反而会激发孩子探索欲,家长可以陪同孩子一起询问主人意见,再去打开物品,告知孩子不能随意翻动。

6、长辈先落座,夹菜有礼貌。现在孩子独生子女较多,过年餐桌上有很多的好吃的,孩子可能菜品刚刚端上来,就迫不及待的坐上板凳,用手夹菜,这时候,我们可以寻找一个身边有礼貌的孩子做示范,鼓励孩子向他学习,邀请长辈先落座,自己再坐下,有想吃的菜品,请父母帮忙夹菜。

7、好吃的食物,不独享,分享给他人。幼儿社会认知有限,看见比较喜爱的食物,可能会想一个人“占有”,因此在日常生活中,家长应该逐渐渗透分享理念,甚至可以演一场戏,让孩子体验不被分享的失落。
8、卫生用餐。春节孩子在一起嬉戏,小手可能会弄得脏兮兮的,稍不留神,细菌进入肚子,引起不适,家长主动带孩子在饭前便后洗手,提醒幼儿使用餐具饮食。

待客礼仪

1、礼仪用语我会说。过年家中来了客人,家长要引导孩子主动打招呼,使用“您好”、“请”、“谢谢”、“下次再来玩哦”……等等人际交往常用语,同时,新年新气象,彼此之间的祝福也不能少,可以储备几句常用句,例如“新年快乐”、“万事如意”“大吉大利”……等,增添节日气氛。

2、不随意打断他人对话。过年大家许久不见,免不了寒暄几句,孩子可在一旁安静倾听,如果有什么需要,可以提前询问“请问我可以打断一下吗”,这个习惯会让孩子终生受益。

3、谦让,友好相处。过年家中的小伙伴也会比较多,孩子会拿出自己的玩具,或者共同观看电视节目,孩子们之间也许会为了不同选择发生争执,家长可在日常使用绘本故事等方式教育孩子学会谦让,让孩子知道,别人来我们家做客,我们要以客人为主,在孩子落实行为时,及时夸奖。

4、待客行为,我会做。客人来到家中,不仅仅是家长需要做一些待客的行为,可以邀请孩子参与,比如为客人端上水果,递上鞋套等物品,树立基本的待客礼仪常识。

新年的环境氛围,为孩子提供了一个良好的社会性发展时间,所以,爸爸妈妈们,你们也要以身作则,为宝贝们做一个好的示范哦!新的一年,希望孩子伴随年龄增长,礼仪也越来越棒,我们一起加油!